What was the last thing that made you feel uber nervous? Perhaps it was giving a presentation or a speech? Maybe it was asking for a pay rise? It could have been an exam or a high-pressure work situation? Perhaps it was a job interview, making an offer on a house or ending a relationship you knew wasn’t working? We each find different things nerve-wracking, but I reckon the sensation of squishy-insides is the same the world over.
I had a one of my own last week. In the days prior my belly would fill with butterflies whenever I thought about it. I was dreaming about it at night then waking up thinking about it in the morning (or at 3am…). Nervy nervousness all around! But! There’s only so long one can feel nervous before one must suck it up and get it done. I rolled out my kit of things that help me to feel brave, had the conversation… and got the result I wanted! Change is on the horizon, sublime seekers! But in the mean time, I’m sharing my bravery-inducing finds with you!
1. Rescue Remedy
Bach’s 38 flower remedies have been around for more than 80 years, each derived from wildflower to act as a safe, natural way to restore balance between mind and body and cast out negative emotions. Rescue Remedy contains 5 of their flower remedies which help you manage nerves or shock and get you focused on the task at hand. Now on an ordinary day I’d scoff at someone trying to sell me wildflowers to sort out my problems, but I was put onto Rescue Remedy about 8 years ago and now I won’t leave the house without it. Ever. Perhaps it’s the magical wildflowers, perhaps the effect is psychosomatic… whatever the case, it makes a difference. I’m a fan of the spray, a quick squirt (or four, depending on the circumstances) on the tongue (or under, if things are curly) is like a little shot of courage. There are also drops and lollies and apparently it can work wonders with your pets too!
2. Red Underwear and/or lipstick
In a team pep-talk prior to my nerve-inducing conversation, VM gave me this advice “wear red underwear, it’s supposed to make you feel more powerful!” I attempted to take her advice and discovered my red underwear is all Christmas-themed! Decided that may hinder rather than help (does anyone else have a collection of Christmas themed clothing/underwear? Such is my intense love of Christmas!). But I looked into this suggestion and as normal, VM is onto it. Psychologically, red is a warm and positive colour that exudes strength and power and and promotes ambition and leadership!
L’Oreal have also revealed that when surveyed on whether or not red lipstick makes women more confident, a whopping 75% answered yes! A bold lip goes a long way towards making you feel like you’ve claimed your place in the world!
Either way, you’re onto a winner with red. Hit it up:
1. Pleasure State VIP “Eternelle” Balcony Bra at Myer $79.95; 2. Smooth Comfort Boyleg by Bras N Things $19.99; 3. Lady Rider Red Suspender Set by Honey Birdette (ain’t nobody messing with this b*tch!) $174.95
And for lips – there’s a squillion options, here are some classics:
1. MAC Russian Red $36; 2. Chanel Rouge Coco Gabrielle (Channel the Chanel goddess herself!) $45 at your closest Chanel counter.
3. A (bloody good) plan
This particular part of the five-step-plan is a little harder to buy, but could be the cornerstone to success!
If your nerves are the result of an impending decision, a good old fashioned pro’s and con’s list can be a major help. If you’re at a fork in the road, I find jotting down each likely scenario helpful to clarify my options.
If my butterfly-inducing event involves me needing to speak, I never go at it without writing out exactly what I want to say, word for word. Even if I don’t refer to the page once during my actual conversation/speech, just the act of writing out what I want to say helps cement the words in my head. AND has the added benefit of saving you in a stage-fright scenario. Part 2 of this is finding a good friend to practice with and give you some feedback. I ran my words past three loved ones before the real deal last week, tweaking things a little each time. It made a HUGE difference!
4. A little bit of leopard print
I don’t have any science to back this one up, but I know if I’ve got a peep of leopard print showing it feels like a little bit of ROAR; confident without taking myself too seriously! I bought the Kate Spade Rissa dress in November and decided in the change room that it’d be a dress I’d wear on occasions when I need to get shizzle done. Check out this chick in my dress, she’s gonna get what she wants, right?
Some other leopard print finds that you might work into your all-conquering outfit:
1. Leopard Spot Scarf by Seed Heritage $49.95; 2. Adrianna Point Flats by Witchery $129.95; 3. Ocelot Peak Cap by Seed Heritage $39.95; 4 & 5. Studio Wrist by Mimco (how gorgeous is the inscription on the inside of the crystal!? This is going on my birthday wish list!) $99.95; 6. Animal Jacquard Pencil Skirt by Cue (and a midi skirt at that! So hot right now!) $189
If leopard print ain’t your thang, choose the outfit that YOU feel confident in. Don’t muck around here, there’s nothing worse that feeling like you look like a dingus when you need to so something important.
5. A YES YOU CAN song!
I’m a huge fan of a big power ballad to get fired up! Alicia Keys’ ‘Superwoman’ is my song of choice, I have and will listen to it on repeat before my moment in the spotlight. 4 minutes of I! Am! Superrrr! Wooooman!
Errr… after watching this and reading the lyrics a little more closely, I suspect I’m not quite the ‘superwoman’ that Alicia had in mind when writing the song … next time I might borrow one of AW’s favourites; Katy Perry’s ‘Roar’.
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire!
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar!
Louder, louder than a lion!
Yeah yeah! You can do it! Either track will set you back $2.19 in the Aussie iTunes store. (I’d love to hear if you’ve got a YES YOU CAN song and what it is, tell me in the comments below!)
That’s a wrap sublime seekers, go forth and summon your most courageous self to achieve your dreeeams!
What are your tips to make yourself feel brave? Do you have a go-to power ballad? Share your secrets with your fellow sublime seekers below!